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Multiple Marriages
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Multiple Marriages
再婚

How to Use Comparatives and Superlatives

Date: Jul 02 2012

Themes: Family, Romance

Grammar: Comparatives and Superlatives

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It would be great if we could get everything right on the first try. But that doesn’t always happen, even with major life decisions like marriage. It takes some people two or more marriages before they finally find true, lasting love.

On the other hand, all relationships take effort and determination, even when true love is involved. Hear Marni and Amy talk about the pros and cons of getting married, again.

如果我们做每一件事时,第一次尝试就能取得成功,这该多好呀。但事情不会总那么顺利,甚至包括像婚姻这样生活中的重大决策。有些人要经历两次或者更多次的婚姻才能找到真正的、永恒的爱。
另一方面,所有恋爱关系都需要努力和决心,尤其遇到真爱时。请听玛尼和艾米讨论再婚的利弊。

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Marni

Marni

Amy

Amy

Marni:  I am about to get married for the second time, and I was thinking, you know, I am technically, you know, this is a multiple marriage for me. I’ve been married more than once at this point, or will be, I should say. And, I don’t know, I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and sort of feeling a little strange about it. Like, you know, it didn’t work the first time. Should I really jump into this again, even though we’ve been together for 10 years? I don’t know. What is your take?

Amy:  Well, it sounds like you’ve been together for a long time, and maybe the first marriage you jumped into a little more. I don’t know the history. But it seems like, if you’ve been with someone for 10 years and you want to make it official, you shouldn’t worry about what’s in your past. Everyone has a history.

Marni:  I guess. You’re right. And yes, I’ve put a lot of thought into it. It’s not like I’m going into this hastily. But I felt that way in my first marriage as well, and things change, people change. But I feel…you know, I feel good about this. I feel like I’m a little older, I’m a little wiser. Perhaps the experience from my first marriage will help me in my second marriage.

Amy:  I mean, in a way, I feel like you are better off than the average person getting married, having no idea what to expect or how to deal with it. You’ve been through it once and, you know, the more practice you have at something, the better you are at it, usually.

Marni:  This is true.

 

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Marni is about to get married. She is nervous about it because she has already been married once before, and that marriage didn’t work out. She wonders if she should be getting married a second time.

Amy tells Marni not to worry. Everybody has some sort of romantic past. Just because Marni’s first marriage did not work, out doesn’t mean that she shouldn’t get a second chance at getting it right.

Marni isn’t jumping into getting remarried. She and her fiance have already been together for ten years. She has thought a lot about getting married for the second time. She thinks that she is older and wiser than she was the first time she got married, and she hopes that will help her make this marriage last.

Do you know anyone who has been married more than once? What do you think it takes to have a successful marriage?

 

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ahmedhamid2

Sudan

you have to think alot when you want to divorce and get a second chance if you have children , because the matter is not just related to your happness to get married two or more times you have to consider your kids and do every thing to put end to the problems you are facing to keep your family safe from dispersion .

02:30 AM Jul 28 2012 |

ak479456

ak479456

Taiwan

I’m just 17 years old so I have no idea what a ideal marriage should be like. But according to my observation, I think marriage is like a team. Two people have to work together dealing with most of things throughout the rest of their life. The best thing is that there is always a person who keeps your company and give a hand sometimes, but first of all we should recognize no one is perfect and that getting along is more difficult than simply loving someone.  I insist that one should get marriage after 30 or even later, when we are mature enough to decide it. Being single is not a bad thing either. A terrible marriage is much worse than being lonely, after all.

05:27 AM Jul 15 2012 |

Andressa Holland

Brazil

I think that when you get married more that two times you start to discredit on the marriage and its value and make it became a fail. I don’t agree with many marriages. Something it won’t work at first time, but works at second, but I don’t believe that, if didn’t work at first and even at second, will work at third, fourth, fifth… Sometimes the problem isn’t the marriage itself, but the people that can’t handle living in couple and can’t handle the others defects, and think that try again and over again will be the solution. Of course that isn’t all the cases, but is what happen in the majority of cases.



I think that what takes to have a successful marriage is the teamwork. Both (man and wife) must think as a couple, respecting, caring and loving his partner. They also must be patient, compreensive and learn to give up sometimes and to forgive. I think that the most important is love! If the couple has it, they can do all the rest and live together as well!

08:28 AM Jul 05 2012 |

blue_22

France

Everyone has right to be happy, so it’s not important that how many times we got married or even without marrige, the thing primodial we have someone who takes care of us sincerely and makes us laugh every day…

04:59 AM Jul 04 2012 |

sofree

sofree

China

Yes, some friends do. I think optimism and responsibility make a successful marriage.

10:55 PM Jul 03 2012 |

pink_gurl

pink_gurl

Kuwait

In general on the individual to think well before the popularity of marriage and knows that if he married you must give every individual the right of care and attention.


Multiple Marriages gives you more experience and learn from your mistakes previous.

06:58 AM Jul 03 2012 |

ahmadfalcon26-11@hotmail.com

Syrian Arab Republic

I think a multiple marriages are possible when the man or woman are need to it .Without infringing on the rights of others

03:02 AM Jul 03 2012 |

i love life

Palestinian Territory, Occupied

We have multiple marriages in the middle east we suffering from the divorce , In my country this marriage is spread because of the Habits   lots  of people love the children and making love with others women , Always the man prefer create a new relationship with the woman for spending nice time or escape from his life .


the woman still keep her life forever but the man is looking to found any woman for love , we didn’t respect the marriage we deal with the marriage in a bad way .


For me I should love and live with my wife forever .


02:38 AM Jul 03 2012 |

ciro pedroso

Brazil

I think that divorce it´s the last option that the couple should take. I Knew people that in they  first marriage didn’t work, but the second, they are living a together and seems that everything it’s gonna be allright. Then when you try and don’t  work,  you need try again and again , until it work. Because there are one love for each person in this small world.

04:07 PM Jul 02 2012 |

alsajer

alsajer

Iraq

You love life, then is also Thpk

03:51 PM Jul 02 2012 |

The Last Joke

Yemen

Irene : you are always very welcome , just it was a little thing for someone as nice as you  ! Have a beauitful night !

03:23 PM Jul 02 2012 |

Irene Forever

Ukraine

Dear The last Joke, thank you so much for the wonderful bunch of flowers.  


  


   


03:19 PM Jul 02 2012 |

dentina

dentina

Poland

If you have no children it’s ok if you want divorce. But when couple have familly you shuold do everything to stay togenther. I don’t approve divorce and multiple mariiages. We have to be sure that we love our partner before marriage and don’t take spontaneous decision

02:43 PM Jul 02 2012 |

ErinDong

ErinDong

United States

i think multiple marriages have no problem. maybe u and your husband or wife just spent 2 long together.

02:08 PM Jul 02 2012 |

h.nastaran

h.nastaran

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

never problem

01:02 PM Jul 02 2012 |

The Last Joke

Yemen

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Dear Irene ;


You are very welcome & thanks a lot for your good understanding .


YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REFUSE TO BE SECOND WIFE !


Any way : this is a little thing for your good understanding !

12:29 PM Jul 02 2012 |

Englishty

Englishty

Egypt

I think there’s no guarantee at all for anything in the life not just marriage, when we begin to do something we hope to be perfect but that doesn’t happen all the time, all we have to do is to do our best and when it doesn’t work out never give up who knows maybe the second time would be better than ever.

11:56 AM Jul 02 2012 |

a2020

a2020

Iran, Islamic Republic Of

One of my relatives has been married twice,but  i think he still love his first wife,then we should be sure about divorcing,


i think many items are important like honesty,being loyal,love,passion,money and so on.

09:42 AM Jul 02 2012 |

Irene Forever

Ukraine

The Last Joke, thank you for the exhaustive treatment of the Multiple and Polygamy marriage in Islam.


It must be confessed that many Christians are violated God’s law as for marriage. Some people in Ukraine live in extramarital affairs. Some men have mistresses. They don’t want to marry them even if they were allowed to do it.:) Why to care of women they have just for pleasure? They can come to their house even without a box of chocolate and have a great dinner prepared by a woman who wants  to have happy moments in her life at any cost. I know, it sounds bad for everybody,but you should know that there are four million men less than women in Ukraine.


Divorce  is a common thing in Ukraine, but I think it’s a very bad experience. I am for one marriage in life. However if people hate each other and spoil life with awful relations, there is no choice as to divorce. Poor children untill they are little. But after time, they have their own families, and it becomes normal but still puts a strain on them.


Happy marriage is that one which began from love and having continuation with mutual understanding and patience.


So my verdict is: I can’t see any problem in Polygamy marriage in Islam as muslim men care of their wives and make them happy giving them an opportunity to have  families and children. Besides women can feel protected.


P.S. Still I would never  agree to be a second wife.:)

Talia Do

Talia Do

Viet Nam

One of my friends got married to her Vietnamese boyfriend. They loved each other very much. But after two years, they were apart because of some problems that could not resolve one of which her husband did not want to have children while she was crave for a baby.


But then now she is very happy with her new American husband and they are expecting a baby next month. Her husband at present was used to be her schoolmate in the USA. Then they cooperate with each other to establish a company in Singapore.


From the moment he first saw her, he loved her and he hid. He observed her from afar until he could be sure of his chance. It took him nearly 12 years and surpassing countless obstacles to marry her. They’ve gone their separate ways in love and near marriage, across oceans and continents, journeying far and searching for that which was lost – all on the inside.


Hence, to my opinion, to have a successful marriage it is important for both sides to understand each other’s needs and try their best to satisfy them. But every individual has his own way to show his love as well as the own way to expect love from his partner. Some people want to hear the expression of love in words from their partners; some people want to spend quality time with their spouses (talking and listening to each other, doing the housework together or going on a vacation, etc.); some people only feel that they are loved by receiving the gifts from their hubbies/ wives; other people consider acts of service are the most clearly way to express love while many other’s primary language is physical touch. Like hugs, pats on the back, holding hands… are all ways to show excitement, concern, care and love.


In another words, we should learn to use effectively ‘The 5 Love Languages’ which are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. The 5 Love Languages is a book written by Dr. Gary Chapman and it is one of the New York Times’ bestsellers.
Hope you will enjoy the book like I do and wish you a happy marriage until the end of time! :)


 


 

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